Being an actor or a public figure is the dream of so many people, but at the same time, it is something that a whole lot of other people have no desire for and find difficult to handle. What happens then when a person who is famous gets married to a person who isn’t really into that lifestyle?
That is what happened with Nigerian film actor, Deyemi Okanlawon who shared how he navigated becoming a popular actor and dealing with his wife, Damilola, who has
The filmmaker also revealed that his wife doesn’t follow him on social media platforms and doesn’t see his movies either.
On how Deyemi Okanlawon deals with the fact that his wife finds it difficult to handle his life in the limelight as a popular actor, He said:
“There was a time I took it for granted that my wife understood the nature of my job, until I started noticing a few things. She was a bit withdrawn, things were changing, and then I tried to have the conversation but even she didn’t realize that she was reacting.
So it took a while of consistently trying to say what’s going on because you’re changing and there’s a difference, before she now finally even looked at it by herself and realized okay, there’s a problem, we need to sit down and we need to talk. And we had the conversation.
People look at her and say oh she’s quiet, she’s reserved, she can handle it. She can’t handle it. We had to handle it together.
So right now my wife does not follow me on Instagram, by her choice. She said she does not want to see.
When my films started showing when I started out on things like DSTV and local channels, we decided that okay we’re no longer watching local channels, let us go and look for international channels. Now I’m inside international channels, we’re looking at ourselves and we’re playing card games in the house.
You have to do everything you can to protect and preserve your environment. I don’t take it for granted that it’s not easy for her, so I still have to check in once in a while.”
