Our #BNSCONVOS has been nothing in need of wonderful this 12 months, when you’ve got been following the calabargist Style Women’s Month campaigns, you possibly can agree that every session has been a build-up to how wonderful the following session one shall be.
Powered by NIVEA, our 4th episode noticed three (3) fabulous ladies flourishing of their numerous fields be part of calabargist Style to debate “Redefining Magnificence: Empowering Girls Via Self-Care & Inclusivity“, hosted by the wonderful Motunde Ibironke. Hit the ▶ button under to look at:
The session featured a liberating candid dialog between the hosts and our company:
(1)Mitchel Ugochi Ukachukwu — Miss Universe Nigeria, the first and solely magnificence queen in Nigeria’s historical past to clinch each titles of Most Stunning Lady in Nigeria and Miss Universe Nigeria; (2) Zainab Balogun — a British-Nigerian Actress, TV Host, and the Government Producer at ZABA Productions; and (3) Mojibade Sosanya who has constructed a powerful profession as a company communications government, occasion host, TV presenter, and public speaker.
When Motunde requested, “How has self-care and self-love performed a job in your advocacy effort and the way has it helped you personal your narrative?”
… I shared my story as a result of I didn’t need one other lady to search out it laborious to get entry to this info. In sharing my story I’ve been capable of construct a group of ladies who can establish with this ache and now know what to do.
Self care grew to become essential for me, proudly owning my narrative grew to become a type of self-care as a result of I wasn’t permitting the world decide what I can share and what I can’t share. Self-care doesn’t must be simply going for magnificence upkeep, it will also be you taking a second to be nonetheless.
— Zainab Balogun
When Motunde requested Mojibade about her strategies for constructing confidence and discovering her distinctive stability after pivoting profession paths amidst a busy schedule, her response revealed a robust mentality routed in self-awareness, self-acceptance and self-love.
Initially constructing confidence and discovering stability requires work. I’m huge on preparation and in a male-dominated trade, I’ve gotten to the place the place I do know that I’m bringing worth on board and I’ve gotten previous the section the place it appears like I’m not ok as a result of individuals don’t acknowledge that I’m pretty much as good as my male counterpart.
I’ve gotten to the place the place I’m actually assured in myself as a result of for the consumer to decide on me they consider I’ve worth to supply. I additionally love myself and don’t examine myself. Whereas there may be room for enchancment and private growth, I’m not going to vary who I’m.
I put together to go on stage with the 3 Rs: I learn, analysis and rehearse. This helps me to go on stage and shine in my uniqueness.
— Mojibade Sosanya
When requested about her perspective on navigating her trade’s strain and staying true to oneself and values, Mitchel shared as follows:
In holding true to 1’s self and values, the very first thing is to know what these phrases imply to you and after getting a transparent definition of what self-confidence and self-expression imply to you then you definately’re on the correct path of holding true to your values as a result of then what these values are.
It’s not straightforward as a result of there may be numerous strain to be good, to look a sure means, to do issues a sure approach to seem in sure locations and it’s not straightforward to maintain up with this stuff and that’s the reason your basis must be robust with the intention to set boundaries. Individuals usually externalise boundaries but it surely’s additionally essential to set boundaries for your self:
what are the issues you possibly can’t compromise on? What are the issues I can’t let go of? When you’re capable of construct this basis, it helps you keep true to your self and then you definately don’t simply succumb to the strain… Having an ideal assist system and the correct individuals round you additionally helps.
— Mitchel (Nee Ihezue) Ukachukwu
Watch the second a part of the dialog, hit the ▶ button under:
How can ladies embrace their distinctive identities of their fields and industries and in addition redefine magnificence for themselves?
There’s energy in realizing that every little thing that makes me who I’m is ammunition, it’s energy by itself, there is no such thing as a different individual like me. It doesn’t matter the place I’m, I do know that I can purchase a sure stage of credibility with my uniqueness and I’ve to have fun that.
I need to encourage ladies to have a way of self consciousness like no different. Be capable of inform your self what’s true, what’s fabricated and what’s a lie.
— Zainab Balogun
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The digital world has penetrated extra into society and it has stolen the chance to color your life within the path that you really want with out taking a look at something that has been curated. It’s not a foul factor to have mentors and other people that you simply look as much as, nevertheless, you may get misplaced for those who don’t have your personal sense of individuality.
It is very important be capable of differentiate between actual life and social media; and have a robust basis to allow you to not get carried away by the excitement.
— Mitchel Ukachukwu
When requested how individuals can have fun range and inclusivity throughout the idea of womanhood pulling from her current viral interview on stereotypes towards ladies and marriage, Mojibade Sosanya responded:
I’m a single lady over 3o and I’m not ashamed of it. I’m single but I’m full, highlighting the truth that there is no such thing as a disgrace in singleness and there’s no disgrace in needing to be married.
I need to be married however I’m not but married and I’m not going to place my life on maintain till that occurs, I’m going to dwell my life to the fullest and I at all times preach this to each younger feminine that I converse to wherever I am going. I’m glad to dwell my life to the fullest till marriage comes.
It’s a utterly horrible mindset to stereotype ladies that aren’t married and we should struggle it. You might be 40 but glad and single, singleness shouldn’t be a situation, you might be simply single and that’s what it’s. It doesn’t make you lesser than anybody who has gotten married and who gave us these timelines?
I want us to construct a greater society the place ladies can dwell to their full potential whether or not they’re married or not. A society with out strain and simply letting individuals be and permitting them to breathe. No matter section you might be in, enable your self to breathe and delight in the fantastic thing about that section.
I’m single, I’m glad, I’m thriving…
Watch the complete interview for extra inspiration and join us this Saturday at 5 PM WAT on @calabargiststyle‘s Instagram LIVE for the ultimate episode of #BNSCONVOS through the fifth version of our Women’s Month celebration.
